How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?
11.06.2025 17:51
By resolving to listen with curiosity rather than defensiveness.
By giving up the notion that someone has to “win” or that anyone loses by saying “you are right”, “I am sorry”, or “I can do better.”
By learning to validate what the other is feeling. “I can absolutely see why you feel this way.”
Have you ever heard of the god Priapus being the same as the god Phosphorus?
By internalizing that responding with kindness is strength, not weakness.
By taking turns talking.
By wanting to truly understand each other, despite feeling unheard.
How do you handle your mother-in-law after you heard her talking badly about you in the next room?
By keeping in mind it’s OK to have different opinions and different experiences, and they both matter in equal measure.
By deciding to stop with the criticism and the nagging and instead say thank you for everything you do for me. Thank you for loving me.